It feels like my husband and I have been talking about what to get the kids for Christmas for months. We try not to buy too many (I hate clutter; they have so much already; we try to focus on the true meaning of the season, yada, yada). But, earlier this week, I had a big “aha” moment about what I’m REALLY giving my children this year, and I am excited to share it with you.
Before I can share my “aha” you’ll need a little back story…
When my first was born I knew the kind of mother I wanted to be. In my mind the perfect mother, the Mama Goddess, was willing to put her needs aside for her children. She would go without so her children could have. She would hold it all together for her family, no matter what. I was determined to be her.
There were pieces missing in my idea of the Mama Goddess. If the Mother is the all giving and self-sacrificing, the Goddess is the receiver, the feminine, the adored, the pampered.
I see my clients lose their balance in this place all the time, and I can clearly identify when it happens because several years ago I found myself here too. Completely depleted, sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I needed things to change.
Can you relate to this?
I was all giving, no receiving. Ever the care-taker, never being taken care of. All Mama, no Goddess.
I decided to begin investing in myself and living fully as the Mama Goddess. It meant spending money on myself, taking trips by myself, taking naps when there was laundry that needed folding, asking for help with things that I could have done myself, tuning-in to what I needed, hiring my own coach, and surrounding myself with a group of incredibly supportive women.
I’m still a work in progress but I’ve come a long way. When I look back even just one year, I can honestly say that I am more confident, better rested, better nourished, healthier and happier than I have ever been.
So how does this relate to the holiday gifts???
This year, under our tree will be a few nicely wrapped gifts for my children, BUT, sitting next to my children will be their strong, confident, healthy, balanced mama. I know it won’t be just what they asked for, but exactly what they want and need.